5 Ways to Show Up in Your Relationships

“We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.” Orson Welles

People are hurting.

Togetherness is a healer.

Be the healer.

Sharing your life with others is one of the biggest contributions- if not the biggest- you can make. No matter how skilled you are in your profession or how many designer handbags you have, love wins! The relationships you are building and will build sets a tone for your entire life.

In this week’s RE-TV we’re building stronger relations, making deeper connections. Discussing boundaries and owning your stuff are two of the five tips I want to share right now. For some of you, these tips might be new or maybe they’re a nudge to get you back in the game and really show up for the people you love and cherish.

What is Showing Up?

So what does showing up mean? It means you lead with love. Love is first. Love is paramount. If you don’t have love in your life, you feel empty with a void that rips at your heart strings. Showing up in the lives of others brings a joyfulness that is indescribable. You listen with tenderness. You keep your word, you do what you said you were going to do. You consider their feelings. You do more than ask about their day, you inquire about life, dreams, goals, upsets and resets. You allow yourself to be vulnerable. You allow yourself to be human without a facade. You are fully present in the moment. You are open-hearted.

Learning to Love is a Process….a Worthy Process

As a child, friendships were very important to me. When I found a true friend, I tried to hang on for dear life and when that friendship ended I was devastated. I chalked it up to one of the trials of being an only child. While I never had an argument over who would ride in the front seat, I missed the the sibling rivalry that helped build social skills.

My practice for ironing out differences usually took place between me and a few pink-lipstick wearing baby dolls (I won every one of those disagreements). So I learned how to build friendships with, well, friends. I got some of those relationships right and others, not so much. It was a process of trust and learning to be vulnerable.

Today, it’s still a process. Of course I have more interpersonal skills now, but relationships require attention, time and patience. I’ve learned to be patient with others and with myself. Life changes and relationships evolve. We can’t predict what happens or choose a friend or lover that will always be there for us. We don’t know. But what we can do and what we ought to do is bring our absolute best selves right now.

I want you to have fulfilling relationships. Quality connections can soften life, sound associations are nurturing. I hope these tips are helpful to you and everyone you share a bond with. Wishing you love, kindness and tenderness. Thank you for tuning in to RE-TV and I hope to hear from you soon.

With Love,

Raquel